Comments on: A Secret http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104 words after Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:41:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Heidi http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-48 Heidi Tue, 31 Mar 2009 02:15:57 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-48 Your post and the conversation following certainly makes me think. And raises some questions in my mind. Lots, actually - because I can't help being curious! :) A couple of them are: Are you sure it's about saying "something"? Or was there something else shared that had nothing to do with a conclusion or an absolute? Is it possible that it's about the process, in which case a contradiction, some inconsistency and a lost train aren't bad things? (they're just part of the learning process...) The other one I wrote about here: http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2009/03/30/more-than-words/ Because my thoughts were getting too long for a comment! :) PS - I think that you're the exact opposite of having no "self" - you shine, my friend. You absolutely shine! Your post and the conversation following certainly makes me think.
And raises some questions in my mind.
Lots, actually – because I can’t help being curious! :)

A couple of them are:
Are you sure it’s about saying “something”? Or was there something else shared that had nothing to do with a conclusion or an absolute? Is it possible that it’s about the process, in which case a contradiction, some inconsistency and a lost train aren’t bad things? (they’re just part of the learning process…)

The other one I wrote about here: http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2009/03/30/more-than-words/
Because my thoughts were getting too long for a comment! :)

PS – I think that you’re the exact opposite of having no “self” – you shine, my friend. You absolutely shine!

]]> By: Jen http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-47 Jen Mon, 30 Mar 2009 17:31:12 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-47 I think that's a huge part of what I am experiencing right now, but it is also combined with this liberation of not being tied to the values of an organization and the guilt that I feel being lucky enough to not have to work. I think that’s a huge part of what I am experiencing right now, but it is also combined with this liberation of not being tied to the values of an organization and the guilt that I feel being lucky enough to not have to work.

]]> By: So Much More Than A Mom http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-46 So Much More Than A Mom Mon, 30 Mar 2009 17:28:23 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-46 I'm not sure if you feel the same, but I felt like I completely lost my identity when I stopped working. In my professional life I was successful, confident, made decisions, etc. Once that ended, I didn't know who I was anymore. I’m not sure if you feel the same, but I felt like I completely lost my identity when I stopped working. In my professional life I was successful, confident, made decisions, etc. Once that ended, I didn’t know who I was anymore.

]]> By: Jen http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-45 Jen Mon, 30 Mar 2009 17:14:28 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-45 I don't think I really expected any comments on this post. I'm very interested that others are feeling the same. After meeting with a friend yesterday, I recognized another barrier in my face to face friendships. When I'm online, I have time to compose my thoughts, and go back through what I've said previously. In person, I'm inconsistent, I lose my train of thought and I contradict myself. Then I feel insecure and walk away wondering if I've said anything at all. Yesterday I told my friend I had no 'self.' I told her I left it on the Internet. I don’t think I really expected any comments on this post. I’m very interested that others are feeling the same. After meeting with a friend yesterday, I recognized another barrier in my face to face friendships. When I’m online, I have time to compose my thoughts, and go back through what I’ve said previously. In person, I’m inconsistent, I lose my train of thought and I contradict myself. Then I feel insecure and walk away wondering if I’ve said anything at all. Yesterday I told my friend I had no ‘self.’ I told her I left it on the Internet.

]]> By: So Much More Than A Mom http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-44 So Much More Than A Mom Sun, 29 Mar 2009 22:24:24 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-44 I kind of get this phobia, or whatever you want to call it. I've been an involuntary stay at home mom since June. My kids are school-age so I spend most days alone. I've become something of a hermit and cherish my days alone. Even before that though, making small-talk with moms with whom I had nothing in common was painfully awkward and a waste of precious time. I kind of get this phobia, or whatever you want to call it. I’ve been an involuntary stay at home mom since June. My kids are school-age so I spend most days alone. I’ve become something of a hermit and cherish my days alone. Even before that though, making small-talk with moms with whom I had nothing in common was painfully awkward and a waste of precious time.

]]> By: hellaD http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-43 hellaD Sat, 28 Mar 2009 21:59:57 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-43 Wow! Thanks so much for sharing your secret. It is so amazing to find that other people have been feeling the same way I have about feeling vulnerable when going "outside" and meeting people. I had several experiences last year with close friends and family that really shook me up and have made me quite protective of my heart I guess. I love the layout of your site as Tania mentioned, clean and makes things easy to read. I am looking forward finding out where your internal explorations have lead you. Wow! Thanks so much for sharing your secret. It is so amazing to find that other people have been feeling the same way I have about feeling vulnerable when going “outside” and meeting people. I had several experiences last year with close friends and family that really shook me up and have made me quite protective of my heart I guess. I love the layout of your site as Tania mentioned, clean and makes things easy to read. I am looking forward finding out where your internal explorations have lead you.

]]> By: Jen http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-42 Jen Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:11:23 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-42 Tania, thanks for the compliment :) Do you think it's bad for us to prefer online friends? I traveled to meet many of mine last year. I just have such strong hesitation to meet people in person these days. I imagine it's not a very healthy model for my children. Tania, thanks for the compliment :) Do you think it’s bad for us to prefer online friends? I traveled to meet many of mine last year. I just have such strong hesitation to meet people in person these days. I imagine it’s not a very healthy model for my children.

]]> By: Tania Hershman http://www.jentropy.com/archives/104/comment-page-1#comment-41 Tania Hershman Fri, 27 Mar 2009 15:37:57 +0000 http://www.jentropy.com/?p=104#comment-41 Jen, what a beautiful site you have! I just wanted to say that I understand completely. I have been suffering from some kind of agoraphobia recently, making it hard to go out, but I feel like I have such a supportive online community I don't actually need to leave the house.. or, as you say, "outside" just isn't as supportive, just doesn't "get" me. Is that a good thing? Is it something to do with the Internet? I don't know. But while leaving the house makes me anxious, I am very grateful for my online friends. Jen,
what a beautiful site you have! I just wanted to say that I understand completely. I have been suffering from some kind of agoraphobia recently, making it hard to go out, but I feel like I have such a supportive online community I don’t actually need to leave the house.. or, as you say, “outside” just isn’t as supportive, just doesn’t “get” me. Is that a good thing? Is it something to do with the Internet? I don’t know. But while leaving the house makes me anxious, I am very grateful for my online friends.

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